If you had to watch one last video on the web I would highly suggest it be, The Last Lecture: Achieving Your Child hood dreams by Randy Pausch. If you click here it will take you to the full version that is 1hr 16minutes. I decided to use this short clip from the Oprah show because it’s more realistic for the average viewer in the sense that it’s only 10minutes long.
Dr. Randy Pausch dreamed big and as a result made a difference in this world. He set his sights high and refused to be “logical” or “realistic” about his future, he knew “anything is possible when you live your life the right way”. His outlook on life was positive and cheerful from an early age which provided him with the upper hand when things didn’t go as planned. He knew he “couldn’t change the hands he was dealt, just how he played them”. He made the conscious decision to be happy every day of his life. He always emphasized the importance of people rather than objects which is something we all struggle with- The value of people vs things.
His motto in life was “don’t complain, work harder!” Have you ever given your all into something and didn’t see the results you were hoping for? You feel stuck like you’re in a slump or maybe you’ve hit a brick wall. Well, Randy says that brick walls are there for a reason. “They are not there to keep us out, they are there to make us show how bad we want it”. In fact, brick walls are meant to keep others out.
He mentioned a number of topics that really spoke to my heart, but one sticks out. The story about his football coach that rode him for 2hrs straight. My father rode me hard, I mean to my breaking point and then some. At the time I was 19yrs old and I wondered why he was putting me under such extremely stressful circumstances at such a young age. I thought to myself “What kind of father rides his son like this?” As I matured I realized it was his way of showing me he cared and he was doing it out of concern. His thought process was “If I ride him as hard as I can with out making him completely snap then he’ll be ready for the business world”. Well I’d hate to say it, but he was right and to this day no employer or business partner has even come close to stressing me the way he did. I credit my humble success to my mother for always whispering words of encouragement in my ear and to my father who ingrained the kind of work ethic in me money can’t buy.
In this video Randy confirmed my thought process by saying “People ride you when they care”. I experience this on the daily with someone I love dearly. He’s like a brother and he’s been with me since day one. I could literally pick up and move to Kazakhstan and if it made sense this guy would pack up and come with. I mean, this is a friend that’s one in a billion. I hate it, but I stress him on the regular and it’s the way I show him I care- I want more for him. I know he’s capable of greatness and I’ll be damned if he settles for anything less. I think he’s starting to get it, but it’s not a fun ride.
For those of you that don’t have time to watch a 10 minute video here are the points Randy highlights:
- Keep a positive outlook on life
- Can’t change the hands your dealt, just how you play the hands
- Don’t choose to be an object of pity
- Achieve your childhood dreams
- Choose to be happy
- Dream BIG anything is possible
- Experience is what you get when you don’t get what you wanted
- People ride you when they care
- Work hard
- Brick walls are there for a reason. They are not there to keep us out. They are there to make us show how bad we want it.
- Show Humility
- Focus on the importance of people instead of things
- Importance of having fun today, tomorrow and every day
- Work and play well with others
- Integrity and accountability go a long way
- Show gratitude, it’s a powerful thing
- Don’t complain, work harder
- Live your life the right way and your dreams will come to you
Randy’s words on “don’t complain, work harder” particularly stands out for me at this time. In business change is inevitable and those that can’t roll with the punches get left behind. I’ve learned to embrace change because it’s all about the vantage point. Do you get negative and give up or do you choose to be challenged? In the good book of Proverbs it says to embrace a disciplined life and I believe part of that is staying out of your comfort zone. Randy passed away 4 months after this video was shot.
Quote: “Be good at something; it makes you valuable…. Have something to bring to the table, because that will make you more welcome.”- Randy Pausch